Porn to be wild??

I recently read an article in a certain women’s magazine. I won’t mention it, but if you know me, you will know that it’s a magazine which I like to read but would never work for, as I feel it has no substance, formalness, thought-inducing or emotion driving journalism. Never the less, it’s a magazine which I happen to come across at home.

I was so surprised when I found an article which I could relate to. As I read it I thought, wow, they really are growing up and catering for a woman with a brain. YEY!! I felt that this article was for me. I was so happy to have found a piece of reading material which tugged at my heart strings.

A few pages later, all my dreams were shattered and my heart was broken again. Probably due to the editorial authority of the publication in question.
As soon as I started enjoying the article, another typical article popped up and went back to giving that magazine its old typical vibe.

The article was about sex, where women wrote in to comment about their experiences and what they did in order to cause some arousal with their partners.
One thing that struck me was that many of these women would use porn stars as inspirations. They all felt that, if they did this, and did that, they felt sexy “like a porn star”

Reading this, conjured up some of my thoughts. Women look down on sex workers, strippers and basically any living female whom resembles a higher level of beauty and sexuality than them. (Yes ladies we all do) (Have you ever met a straight woman who feels comfortable standing next to a sexual goddess?)

Anyway, so we look down on those overly sexual women. We moan or get in a tizz when our partners watch porn, or if they comment on how hot Jessica Alba looks. But yet when in the sack, we try to perform like porn stars, and we only feel sexy when we are behaving like a porn star.

I doubt that while a porn star is doing her thing, she is really enjoying it, and feeling loved and having the best emotional intimate connection of her life. Call is cliché, but I tend to think that sex workers are in it for the money? (Excuse the pun) Maybe they enjoy the attention, but at the end of the day, she still has to sleep with men, she doesn’t know, doesn’t love and he won’t call her in the morning for a second date.

Yes but it’s her job. Is probably what you’re saying. Yes it’s her job. To perform like sex is what she lives, breathes and sleeps. She does this so that your partner can get off by himself, those lonely nights when you have a headache or when the reconstruction or your uterus lining is taking place.

Sure the likes of Jenna or Brianna have made them mega stars but that’s only two. I suppose the thought of you being a mega star in your partner’s memory as the best porn style performance is an achievement in the mind of some.

Sure people use porn as ideas and inspiration of sorts. But I find it so ironic that we look down on sluts. Yet in the bedroom we behave like sluts. Perhaps it’s a new thing to be a bedroom slut but a lady outside of the bedroom. That probably what every man wants. If so, and if women are going to conform to this then maybe society should wake up and delete those derogatory names which women are called.

Perhaps publications should pay attention to what they are putting out there. Adults are just big children. You give them ideas and they will do. Give kid’s dolls that have huge puffy lips, thin waists and wear high heels and your 7 year old will want to dress the same. Give adults some movies, some lace, maybe a rope and guess what you will get.

Yes but they are adults. They know what they are doing. Do they? Do adults not think for themselves? Instead of our reading materials teaching us how to recycle and save water. How to help save the pandas and how to sort out real life issues, they teach us how to be a porn star and how to have great sex. Having great sex isn’t the answer to anyone’s problems.

After your grand performance, you will still have debt. That man could still leave you. Your boss still won’t like you. Your car still won’t have petrol and that rash will still be there.

I just think that in life there are far more important things than feeling, acting and behaving like a porn star. Show your true colours in bed and express what you really feel, how you feel it.